Bonobos are apes - the bonobo shares more than 98 percent of our genetic profile, making it as close to a human as, say, a fox is to a dog - says scientist, Frans B. M. de Waal, http://songweaver.com/info/bonobos.html.
My interest in Bonobos arises from my curiosity about sexuality in men and women - particularly men.
I learned about sexual tension early in my life. In the bedroom next to mine, I frequently overheard my mother crying over her suspicions and chastising my father for being with other women. Without understanding the sexual intimacy between my parents, I was aware that my mother was blocking affection from my father.
The topic of sex was taboo in our Canadian household as I suspect that it was in most families in the 40s and continues to be so even now in 2010. My mother and father never even used the word "sex" in front of my sister and me. Nor did they use proper language to describe body parts. In fact my mother covered herself up if I, her eldest daughter, suddenly surprised her in her bedroom while she was dressing.
Perhaps my mother is laughing now at how ridiculous we all are in this human form on this planet earth. And maybe she is applauding me for finally going out on a limb - another limb - to delve into "taboos".
My natural curiosity drives me and questions even the idea of taboos. How can anything be wrong and forbidden?
I love Rumi, "Out there beyond the ideas of wrong doings and right doings is a field, I'll meet you there." How can anything be wrong or right - everything just is.
To say that my entire life was destroyed because of society's bazaar attitude toward sexuality is a huge understatement.
In fact, how strange is it that I am only now in my sunset years exploring sexuality and coming to the realization that humanity in general has been deceived by "religious zealots", and philosophers, and royalty whose very devious intentions to control mankind by oppressing sexuality wreaked havoc on the entire planet.
Of course I could be dead wrong about that, but this is the beginning of my research to uncover what the hell went wrong with human beings that caused me to miss out on the magnificent experience of sexual freedom.
Why is sex still taboo? You might say well, it isn't any more. You can find all the sex you want on the internet.
If sex has risen to a new level of acceptance why are there still advocates for monogamy.
Examine the sexual patterns of Bonobos:
First, anything, not just food, that arouses the interest of more than one bonobo at a time tends to result in sexual contact. If two bonobos approach a cardboard box thrown into their enclosure, they will briefly mount each other before playing with the box. Such situations lead to squabbles in most other species. But bonobos are quite tolerant, perhaps because they use sex to divert attention and to diffuse tension.
Second, bonobo sex often occurs in aggressive contexts totally unrelated to food. A jealous male might chase another away from a female, after which the two males reunite and engage in scrotal rubbing. Or after a female hits a juvenile, the latter's mother may lunge at the aggressor, an action that is immediately followed by genital rubbing between the two adults.
What happened way back in time to crush our natural sexual expression? The result of trying to crush mother nature is that she always manages to escape from the bondage imposed on her. Man simply cannot keep what is natural from having its way and what has been oppressed escapes in unpleasant ways.
I suggest that aggression is the result of sexual oppression - war is the result of sexually frustrated human beings - mostly males.
See how Bonobos deal with aggression and conflict...
During reconciliations, bonobos use the same sexual repertoire as they do during feeding time. Based on an analysis of many such incidents, my study yielded the first solid evidence for sexual behavior as a mechanism to overcome aggression. Not that this function is absent in other animals--or in humans, for that matter--but the art of sexual reconciliation may well have reached its evolutionary peak in the bonobo. For these animals, sexual behavior is indistinguishable from social behavior. Given its peacemaking and appeasement functions, it is not surprising that sex among bonobos occurs in so many different partner combinations, including between juveniles and adults. The need for peaceful coexistence is obviously not restricted to adult heterosexual pairs.
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